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Death: God’s worst idea?

Stephen M. Miller
SPIRIT WORLD. Family and friends huddle together for a funeral in Hermann, Missouri. Which begs the question, “Why does God put up with something as miserable as death?“ Photo by Stephen M. Miller.

ONE EMAIL changed my week.

It came this past Tuesday. By today, my son and I were supposed to be on the West Coast, prepping to meet with my editor and the publishing team: president, sales folks, designers.

But the email reported that my editor – the person most responsible for ushering my book through the production gauntlet – had just lost his 35-year-old son and his 83-year-old dad when the small plane his son was flying crashed and burned shortly after takeoff.

I saw the photos online and I read the story in the digital edition of the local newspaper.

There was nothing left of the front part of the plane where the young man and his grandpa were sitting. The tail of the plane was all that survived intact.

I spent about two hours working with a travel company to get my airline tickets changed for a flight to the publishing company next month. The airlines charged the full price of the change fees: $200 for each ticket, each way. About $800 for the two of us since we were flying there on one airline and flying back on another. They said they would have waived the fee if it had been my son and my dad in the airplane.

Normally, I would have gotten angry at everything about that phone call.

  • At how long it took them to change the tickets; the distracted lady sounded like she was new to the job and working in the living room of a noisy house in India.
  • At having to pay that steep fee in spite of the tragedy.

But as I sat there on hold, I kept thinking of my son.

In a month, he and I will go to the postponed meeting. He directs my marketing efforts and I wanted him there with me.

So I will be there with my son.

My editor will be there without his son.

I think he will notice that.

I’ve thought about how to introduce him to my son. But the very thought of speaking the words melts me.

All week long, so far, I have felt broken for this editor whom I have never met face to face.

  • We’ve joked by email.
  • We’ve argued by email and phone.
  • We’ve created books together by email, phone, and Federal Express.

I should think of him as a colleague. Normally I do.

Not today.

Today, he’s a dad without a son. And he’s a son without a dad.

No more. No less.

That’s all and everything. Right now, the spirit has room for nothing else.

When tragedies like this consume our day, we’re left wondering why God didn’t bother to lift a finger. Or lift the plane.

Worse, we wonder why God invented death. It seems like a terrible idea.

Theologians will argue that God wasn’t the source of death, and that death came into the world through Adam.

But who can trust a theologian?

They invent words so they can talk about things they don’t understand. Like the Trinity, entire sanctification, and original sin.

Still, I think it’s healthy to talk about things we don’t understand. And to raise questions we can’t answer.

Like why would God All-Mighty allow death when God in the Flesh cried at a friend’s grave?

“Jesus wept” (John 11:35).

I find myself not liking a God who would invent death. Or even a God who might not have invented death, but who allows it when he could stop it.

I like a God who cries when someone dies.

So when I think about the death of people close to home – family, friends, and colleagues – I leave behind the questions I can’t answer.

I turn to scenes I can picture and understand and embrace.

  • Jesus crying at the grave of Lazarus.
  • Lazarus rising from the dead and walking out of the tomb, at the command of Jesus.
  • Jesus rising from the dead – evidence that death for all its finality isn’t final.

It feels final, I know. There’s no flesh to touch, no voice to hear.

But as followers of Jesus we trust that there is life in the Spirit.

We don’t know what that’s like. But we trust that if Jesus is there, it’s enough.

For more about death

  • Two deaths, a Good Friday reading
  • What happens to dead Christians?
  • What about near-death experiences?
  • Book: “Death,” Complete Bible Handbook, pages 103-104
  • Video: The Bible, and the Long Good-bye

Blog subscribers who win books this week

  • Jaime Hernandez
  • Rogerio Lauretti

I give away free books each week. It’s normally to randomly selected subscribers to my free blog and quarterly newsletter. But this time I picked two of the most recent subscribers. I’ll probably pick from the newbies for the next several weeks.

The winners will get the option of choosing my new release: A Quick Guided Tour Through the Bible – among about half a dozen other titles.

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STEPHEN M. MILLER is an award winning bestselling Christian author of easy-reading books about the Bible and Christianity and author of the Casual English Bible® paraphrase. His books have sold over two million copies and include The Complete Guide to the Bible and Who’s and Where’s Where in the Bible.

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  1. Richard Hagee

    September 10, 2015 at 10:06 am

    Death: God’s Worst Idea? Yes, many of us have wondered and questioned, “God, why do you, a loving Father, allow death?” Death to those we love only brings grief. There are a number of answers, but I wonder how satisfying they are to the grieving? I think not very satisfying at all to many.
    Now about your comment of not relishing introducing your colleague and editor to your son at a future California meeting since he is now without a son brings to my mind situation my hair cutter, Sharon said to me. Her Christian mom is a strong and sincere person of faith. And Sharon’s Mom knows it is wrong to feel this way, but she feels jealous of her friends, her daughters, and any other woman who still has a spouse. She is upset with God for taking her husband. She is jealous of her sisters, in there 80’s and older than her( she is in her 70’s) who still have their spouses. She doesn’t seem to be able to move on or heal. She doesn’t seem to want to date men at her church or who she meets publically. She is stuck in the immature state of jealousy and knows it is wrong but nevertheless feels this way. And even though not everyone reacts like Sharon’s mom did and does, I could see why you would feel uneasy about introducing your editor to your son. I changed the my hair stylist’s name for anonymity.

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    • Stephen M. Miller

      September 10, 2015 at 10:44 am

      Thanks for the note Richard. I don’t think I’m worried about the man being jealous of my son being alive. But I fear it will remind him of his loss, which could make the pain a little more intense during the time together. Life is sometimes tough and complex. But we plow through with love as best we can.

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